Currently, there is no API or event trigger available in Microsoft Teams that allows a meeting side panel app to be automatically added or activated when a meeting starts. The only method to load the side panel app is through manual steps during the meeting, as you described.
The meeting apps (including side panel and meeting stage) are supported in the Teams desktop client, but they require user interaction to open them. As of now, there are no known workarounds or upcoming features that would enable automatic activation of meeting apps without user intervention.
For the most accurate and updated information, you may want to keep an eye on the official Microsoft Teams documentation and updates regarding meeting app functionalities.
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